Darryl,
I must say although I didn't exactly interpret the article as you did, I did find some of your points valid. I don't think that Kohn was specifically saying not to praise your child, but for them to see the bigger picture in avenues of praise, sharing, respect and generosity. I as a parent have suffered with having high expectations for my children. I must admit that I feel that sometimes constant praise breeds a form of entitlement in our children. They rely on us as their parents to teach them and we must prepare them for the praise they may get as they progress through the challenges in life. I fell that Kohn may be implying that with the right type of praise and communication with our children, we may possibly help them with their successes and failures as far as dealing with them emotionally.
Praise is praise no matter how you want to implore it. Kohn seems to push more of a communicative state with children versus telling them "Good Job" for everything. We are all guilty of these idiocies, but for the most part it seems that his point was supported and well structured.
Either way I really enjoyed your opposition in your blog post. Thank you for shedding a different perspective on this article!
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